My own journey to Motherhood.
I have suffered infertility with a capital ‘I’ and if hearing my story brings you hope and comfort then I am happy to tell it a hundred times over.
I haven’t always told it though – it was too painful and too raw, and I couldn’t get through it without distress.
In 2010 I was diagnosed with ‘unexplained infertility’. The entire ‘blame’ was at my door because my husband was fertility healthy and I, well, let’s just say for now that there were a few issues.
I now know there is no such thing as blame in the fertility story and journey, but blame myself I did. I wish I hadn’t been so hard on myself and I hope you’re not being hard on you.
My fertility journey brought me through many procedures – some ok, some a little less so and if you’ve experienced these, I feel you. You and I have a connection through experience.
The upshot for me was that both my tubes were blocked and damaged – likely due to internal injuries I suffered as a child after an R
TA. IVF was our only choice – and I want to take a moment here to send gratitude to the medics and scientists who have made artificial reproductive techniques such as IVF/IUI/ICSI possible. Without you…it doesn’t bear thinking about.
So, we did 2 ½ rounds of IVF and
have two beautiful daughters as a result!!
I wasn’t offered any help other than IVF and even at that my egg quality wasn’t guaranteed. So, I put myself on the fertility programme I had been using in clinic for years and threw everything I had at this IVF journey. I was in my (very!) late 30’s – I knew the reality of my chances.
I remember being told by my consultant after birthing my second daughter (in my 40’s no less!) that I didn’t realise how unusual it was to succeed so easily and at my age – and I told him I had used every tool in my box to succeed – just as I’d helped hundreds of women, men and couples in my clinic.
Since then I’ve been rearing my daughters AND perfecting my Pre-IVF Best Health Plan™ – for you my friend.
With love & respect,
(My two fairies!)